Funeral tomorrow

And so it’s my dad’s funeral tomorrow. If I get through it without turning into a teary mess it’ll be a bloody miracle. How is it that I can write articles in minutes with no problems but writing a eulogy took me hours and I’m still not happy with it?
Somehow none of it feels real, which I guess is the easy bit because I’m certain that when it becomes real it becomes much more painful and I’m quite sure that’s not going to be fun.


23 Responses

  1. So sorry to hear. I am wishing you much strength and support. (((HUGS)))

  2. My condolences to you Vicola, and everyone in the family and my thoughts are with you all at this sad time.

  3. Thinking of you at this sad time, Vicola.

  4. I’m so, so sorry Vicola. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  5. I’m so sorry. I’ll be thinking of you and your family today. If you’re a teary mess, then that’s ok xx

  6. I’m so sorry Vicola, I’ll be thinking of you today and in the weeks and months ahead x

  7. I’m so so sorry. Tears are normal and fine and I’m thinking of you all xxx

  8. I’m so sorry Vicola. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you to write his eulogy – it must be so difficult to condense everything you felt about him into one piece. I reckon he’d be mighty proud of you no matter what you say. Sending thoughts to you and your family XO

  9. Me too love.

  10. Sorry to hear of your loss, and remember crying is nothing to be ashamed of.

    Funerals are never easy but our thoughts are with you at this very difficult time.

  11. You really are a daughter to be proud of, I’m sure. Best wishes for tomorrow x

  12. I am so sorry for your loss. I know you’ve done your father proud in life and in the eulogy. Our wishes, thoughts and love to you and your family.

    • Thanks Pete, times are hard right now but we’re getting through it as best we can. Still shit though. And thanks for your offer to help that you sent over, it’s very kind of you xxx

  13. Hope you’re doing ok. I expect you’ll contain everything and then suddenly in 18 months it’ll all spill out and you’ll stab a motorist who cut you up. But, you know, talk about it things first. That might be more beneficial. Grief does fade but the sense of loss won’t. Fill yourself with good memories to cushion the dips.

  14. Very sorry for your loss.

  15. I can say nothing but that I know you hurt, and I’m sorry. Major hugs and thoughts your way.

  16. Have read your blog for a few months now and enjoy your comments and outlook on life.

    I also lost my father at a young age (he was 59) to heart disease, the scary thing is that I am now 58 myself. I always knew of course that 59 was a very young age to die, but is only now that I am of similar age that i fully appreciate how totally unprepared for death he must have been. There is so much more that I want to do and I am sure he too would have wished for a longer innings to see some of the things I am looking forward to – Children’s weddings, grandchildren etc.

    Fact is it is just not fair, I often think of him and wish that I had turned out to be half the man he was.

    Greatest sympathy for your loss

    • I’m sorry that you went through this too, it’s bloody awful. 59 is too young to go, it’s not right. Even in Glasgow you’re expected to live longer than that. You’re quite right, sometimes the world is just grossly unfair and bad things happen to good people. Dont’ sell yourself short, I’m sure your dad would be proud of who you are now.

  17. Aww, bloody hell matey ……. I had just replied to your last post when I spotted this one. It was a shock, and I am gutted for you (and even though you don’t like birds crying, it made me shed a tear).

    How are you doing?

    • Still a bit numb and it’s still not quite real at the moment, I keep expecting him to walk back into the house when I’m over visiting mum. We’re all just sort of treading water while the numb bit lasts and waiting with baited breath to see what comes next. I suspect it won’t be pleasant.

  18. Warmest of warm hugs coming your way. This must be a truly shit thing to have to go through and it will take time. Time, as they say, takes time and can’t be rushed. Be gentle to your good self.

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