Still rumbling along so far

First off I’d like to say thanks to all you lovely lovely people who left me a comment. I’ll reply to you all when I get a chance but thanks for the support, it was really lovely.

Due to the instability of the pelvis, two moves was deemed impossible and even one was thought risky so he’s opted tostay in Christies till the end. We’ve been moved into a private room which they said we could personalise so we’ve stuck up his get well cards, a load of photos from various times and a big poster of bury FC.

He’s weakening gradually. He took the news that he only had days from the doctor this morning quite hard. His speech is deteriorating as he gets more tired and he is struggling to follow conversations with several people  going at once. The chest sounds pretty bad and he’s stopped using the computer to communicate with his messageboard friends. He falls asleep in the middle of conversations and gets confused easily. How much of that is disease and how much is drugs it’s impossible to say. He’s sat reading the paper at the moment and looks pretty chirpy but he’ll drop off in a minute.

We’re staying with him all the time now, so he’s never alone because we don’t know when the end will be but we’ve been told when it comes, there’s a possibility it will be fast. This means trying to kip in armchairs which is never an easy task. It also  means, since I wasn’t expecting to stay, that I have the most mingingly dirty hair ever, I’ll be putting tomorrow’s makeup on top of today’s and I’m going to have to trundle off soon to see I can beg, steal or borrow (and I’m joking with the last one) a toothbrusg from somewhere. Otherwise it’s brush teeth withtoothpaste on corner of slightly grubby shirt. Which is really not classy at all. Or, since I’ve been sat round a hospital all day, hygenic. Ah well, needs must. I shall report back soon, from wherever they put me to recover from the muscular damage cuased by kipping on a hard hospital chair.


14 Responses

  1. I guess the best we can hope for now, Vicola, is that he’s free from pain. Thinking of you and your family.

  2. It’s good that he (and the rest of you) get privacy and get to be with him. As hard as it was, I am glad I was there with my mother at the end.

    Don’t worry about replying comments, you have more important things on your mind right now.

  3. It’s a nice touch that the hospital allows you to personalise the room., but simply being with him is the most wonderful thing that you can do.

    Agree with GOM about comments. Family needs all your time.

  4. My Dad has always said he was glad he was with his parents when they died. It makes sense in a way, that they were there at your birth so you can be with them when they die. It’s sort of like completing a circle.

    You and your family continue to have my thoughts x

  5. I feel for you all so much – hold on tight to your family.

  6. I’m glad you’ve got a private room. You write so eloquently and movingly about this.

    I’m thinking about you all.

  7. Brilliant that they’re letting you stay with him – we weren’t allowed to and my lovely Mum slipped away in the wee hours. She wasn’t really with us anyway and so it probably wouldn’t have made a difference to her, but I’ve always hated the fact that none of us was with her at the end.

    Will be thinking of you.

  8. I went through this with my mother and I know how absolutely numbing it can be. My thoughts are with you and my heart aches for you.

  9. xx

  10. Aww me dear, what a truly horrible situation ….. But you are doing all the things that other people wished they had done when they lost a parent…. and you will be grateful for that later.

    Stay strong, chick….. we are thinking about you.

    P.S. Don’t worry about commenting … who gives a shit in times like this? x

  11. Just (((HUGS)))

  12. Hon, I am so sorry you are all going through this. Stay strong, as I know you will, and if there is anything I can do at all please just say.
    With love to you all, always.
    Pete x

  13. Gentle thoughts and kind hugs to you and your family.

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